Attacked people become defensive, not helpful.
If someone feels attacked, you’re unlikely to get what you want or need from them without further force.
By avoiding attacking someone, you give them the opportunity to help you.
Even in difficult situations, there is a choice.
In the words of Viktor Frankl,
Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space lies our freedom and power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and freedom.